It’s time to get down on one knee and pop the question to the woman of your dreams! How do you make sure you’re getting the ring she’ll fall in love with? Here’s a step-by-step guide on how to buy the perfect diamond ring for her so that she says yes!
Step 1: Choose a Diamond Shape
There are many popular options from which you can choose. However, before you decide on a specific shape, first consider your bride’s personality and lifestyle. For example, if she is an athlete or active person, her day may be filled with all sorts of activities that could have her hands full at any moment.
If so, she may prefer a round brilliant diamond. These stones typically measure between 3 – 4 mm in diameter and offer maximum brilliance due to their smaller cut proportions (and therefore higher number of facets). Round diamond rings also allow more light into their center, creating extra sparkle and shine. On the other hand, some brides like to stack rings together!
Step 2: Select Desired Carat Weight
The size of a diamond is often listed in carats, which is equal to one-fifth of a gram. The higher the number of carats, such as 1 carat or 2 carats, means that there are more diamonds present. If you’re looking for a big sparkling engagement ring, then opt for higher numbers when selecting your desired diamond weight.
Step 3: Inspect Cut Quality
After you’ve narrowed down your options, it’s time to inspect each stone carefully. Ensure that any diamond that you’re considering purchasing is cut correctly. An expert can quickly evaluate a diamond and tell whether or not it was cut properly. Look for diamond cuts with high ratings (AAA and above) and low inclusions, which are tiny air bubbles inside of diamonds that reduce their overall value.
Step 4: Determine Diamond Color Grade Range
Color grade refers to how clear a diamond is. The grade is determined by comparing a diamond against standards set by organizations like GIA and AGS. These grades range from D (colorless) to Z (light yellow). You can find out which grades your diamonds fall under using color grading charts, or you can get an expert opinion from your local jeweler.
Step 5: Choose Clarity Grade
Clarity is one of four Cs in a diamond grading system (the others are carat, color, and cut). Clarity refers to a diamond’s imperfections, like cloudiness or spots on its surface. While most people choose their diamond based on cut, clarity is also an important factor when choosing your ring. The higher a diamond’s clarity grade, the fewer blemishes it will have.
A lack of clarity may make your stone look dull and cloudy. If you’re looking for brilliance, opt for a high-clarity gem—they’ll look brighter than lower-clarity stones with similar cuts and colors.
Step 6: Make a Comparison with other Diamonds
Ask your jeweler about what type of diamond you’re purchasing and verify that it meets your standards. If you are looking for a specific kind of clarity, such as FL (Flawless), Vs2 (Very Slightly Included), or SI1 (Slightly Included), different levels meet each standard. You should also ask if they use conflict-free diamonds, meaning they come from non–violent means.
Step 7: Verify Diamond Standard
The diamond industry is completely unregulated, meaning anyone can use any terms they want or make any claims they want about their product. This can be extremely confusing, so double-check that your diamond is certified to meet all of your standards before buying. The only place where a diamond must be verified and graded by an independent third party is at a GIA (Gemological Institute of America) lab.
Take your time when picking a lab; not all labs are created equal, some are cheaper and don’t do as thorough work as others. Many sellers offer GIA certification on their website, which is always recommended so you know exactly what you’re buying before spending thousands of dollars.
Step 8: Choose a Ring Setting
Before you start looking at loose diamonds, consider whether you want a simple setting, or a more elaborate one. This will help narrow down your list of possible choices from dozens to just a few. Some women prefer simplicity, while others may be looking for something extra special—or as close as you can get without going into debt over it. A third possibility is that she’s not sure what she wants, but knows she doesn’t want something too ostentatious.
If that’s her opinion on jewelry styles, stick with a classic design and let her choose her loose diamond later. Whatever style you choose, make sure it fits her personality. For example, if she’s a businesswoman who wears conservative clothing, it’s probably not best to buy an ornate ring with gemstones set in gold filigree. Choose a plainer band instead so that it won’t clash with any outfits she might wear to work.
Step 9: Make the Buy
You’ve scoped out a style you like, picked out your diamond and had it cut, and gotten pre-approved for financing. Now you just need to close that final distance between what you want and what you can have. You’re ready to pull out your credit card or haggle with a jeweler—or both—to get that rock on her finger.
But before you do, remember: This isn’t just a purchase—it’s an investment in your future together. Make sure she feels at least as excited about it as you do (if not more). If she does, then go ahead and make that purchase! Your significant other will appreciate your care as much as her ring when she gets it on her finger.
As you can see, many things go into buying a diamond ring—and it’s important that you’re able to do so responsibly. Educate yourself as much as possible about your options before choosing a diamond and gemstone, and then shop around for your perfect ring. This is your future wife we’re talking about! She deserves only the best!